Marc Estes

Life is much like a masquerade ball – A masquerade ball is an event which the participants attend in costume wearing a mask. The masked guests are supposedly dressed so as to be unidentifiable. This creates a type of game to see if a guest can determine each others’ identities. These gala events date back into the 15th century and were popular amongst royalty and the upper class. Many films and operas have been built around this mystic celebration including “The Phantom of the Opera.”

Although masquerade balls are intended to be a fun, isolated special event, many of us today live our lives daily, much like we are attending a Masquerade party. We begin by deciding who we want to become and what we want to look like (good or bad).  Then we pick out our outfits; the words we will choose, the lies we will tell, the secrets we will hide and the stories we will build. Next, we parade ourselves out into the real world, hiding our true identity behind the mask, never really allowing anyone to know who we really are.   We play the game, talk the talk  and do life together, but behind masks lies loneliness, hurts, wounds, insecurity and pain.

 Yet when we get all alone and take off the mask, we realize that our life is unfulfilling, non-meaningful and empty. We long for love and relationship yet we just don’t know how to get out from behind our masks and build healthy, lasting relationships.

A mask is simply, “a covering to disguise or conceal the face. To make unrecognizable.  To hide under a false appearance.” We may not literally walk around with a mask on our face, but many today do shroud themselves with invisible masks that paralyze their ability to build healthy relationships.  They disguise and conceal their real identity. They simply live a life in hiding. 

As long as you hide behind your ‘mask’ you will never fill the voids, heal the hurts of fix the problems!  Reality is, if we are totally honest with ourselves, EVERYONE has experienced life behind the mask.

Here are eight masks many of us wear today:

1. Mask of Pain – Caused by hurts and disappointments.  Psalm 73:14
2. Mask of Brokenness – Caused by life’s tragedies, trials and setbacks. Proverbs 17:22
3. Mask of Insecurity – Caused by lack of affirmation, low self-esteem, and wrong view of self. Psalm 129:33
4. Mask of Bitterness – Caused by offenses, misunderstandings and unresolved conflict.Psalm 73:21
5. Mask of Shame – Caused by embarrassment from wrong actions and mistakes you have made. Genesis 3:8
6. Mask of Selfishness – Caused by pride, arrogance and focusing regularly on your own needs.James 3:14
7. Mask of Fear – Caused by fear of the unknown, primarily in developing a new relationship. Psalm 55:5  
8. Mask of Wrong Motivations – Caused by ambition, busyness or preoccupation to pursue things of perceived value at the expense of relationships. James 4:3

In order to find true fulfillment in your life an unlock all of God’s blessings you must remove the masks and face reality.

Here are some simple steps you can take to removing your masks:

1. Get alone with God and ask Him to show you your masks – You probably know them well.
2. Be honest with yourself and face the issues – Ask someone else to be honest with you.
3. Pray and overcome them – Pray until breakthrough, daily! Every time it shows up confront i.
4. Bury your mask – Renounce it, don’t let it define you, walk from it, never to return.
5. Take the risk to live life beyond the mask – Make practical plan to step out in new ways.